Reflection: Identity as ‘Self’ delusion

It’s a long flight from Maine to Israel-Palestine: Portland to Philadelphia to Tel Aviv—about 14 hours. From Philadelphia, on United Airways, the plane was completely full, and I had plenty of time to wonder about the purpose of the trip of others around me. Religious reasons—a pilgrimage to the Holy sites? To see family? To go home? Or, like Bob and me, to visit with friends and to learn more as we work to promote human rights for all people in the region, including Palestinians? How many on the plane would identify themselves as Christians, Jews, Muslims? Americans, Israelis, Palestinians? Identity—this most powerful and primal human concept—is blindly accepted and widely embraced to recognize differences and distinctions between people.

However, while identity provides comfort and safety through the sense of belonging to a group, by its very nature it also alienates and separates through distinguishing one group from others. Such is the paradox—comfort and belonging, on the one hand; distinction and separation, on the other. While much that is good and beautiful arises from identity, such as the richness of cultural expression through music, art, poetry and dance, it is also identity that contributes to seeing others as less valid, less important—as competitors and an obstacle to one group’s getting what it wants, as much as it wants, when it wants.

Competition is a perspective based on a sense of lack and, therefore, can produce stinginess rather than a sense of plenty, sharing and generosity. Actions that are fear-based often arise out of the “lack” side of the identity coin—we need to ensure our safety, our security, even our very existence. You are not one of us–I am afraid of you. Unfortunately, and as we know, many groups, because of a certain identity (ethnicity, race, gender, and so on), have been persecuted throughout history (most notably, and horribly, the Jews in the Holocaust), so it is understandable that there is fear. But fear can be fueled by the powerful, and the vulnerable persuaded to believe distortions and untruths. Others become victimized, with perceived justification, as one group makes the claim for its right to exist with full rights while denying the same right to another group. Fueled by greed, ill-will and ignorance, the cycle of suffering will sadly continue——until there is a seeing, a deep seeing, into the superficiality of identity and the delusion of separateness.

On the big house-in-the-sky, flying over the Atlantic Ocean, regardless of the purpose of our trip to the Holy Land, we are a people together, a community– sharing space and time and a common goal: to reach Tel Aviv safely. We are companionable, cooperative, respectful towards one another. A woman loses her glasses and the iPhone flashlights from those around her quickly light up the area and a search begins. A baby cries and her young mother soothes her by walking up and down the aisle—kind words and gestures are offered. We wait in line for the lavatory and wipe the sink (as suggested by the sign next to it) so the next person in line has a neat wash area. We are quiet so sleep might be possible. I curl up in my seat as best I can and close my eyes to rest.

Meditation of Compassion (Karuna)

The nature of my suffering is the same as the nature of yours– May my heart know your heart;
May we be free of the delusion of separateness;

The nature of my suffering is the same as the nature of yours–May the light of love and understanding
Penetrate the darkness of worry, fear, and regret;**

May we be free from suffering;
May we live in harmony with each other and with life just as it is;
May we know peace, contentment, and the ease of well-being.

**”May the light… sorrow and regret”:     adapted from a compassion mantra, pg. 111.   Dancing with Life by Phillip Moffitt 

 

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I have been a dedicated student/practitioner of Nikaya Buddhism since 1996, studying and practicing primarily at the Barre Center for Buddhist Studies (BCBS) and the Insight Meditation Society (IMS) in Barre, MA. During these years, I have had the good fortune to have studied with widely respected teachers such as Pali language scholar and former Executive Director of BCBS, Andrew Olendzki; Gloria Taraniya Ambrosia, BCBS resident meditation teacher; Gaia House guiding teachers, John Peacock and co-founder Christina Feldman; abbot of the Metta Forest Monastery, Thanissaro Bhikkhu; and founders and guiding teachers of Dharmagiri, a South African hermitage, Thanissara and Kitassaro. I am founder and Dhamma leader of the Insight Community of Southern Maine and bring to ICSM what I have learned from these and other wise teachers (as I understand their instruction thus far) and what I have learned from my ongoing independent studies, meditation practices and life experiences. As a psychotherapist, I incorporate Buddhist psychological theory and mindfulness-based strategies into my psychotherapy practice. I offer related workshops and programs to health care and mental health care professionals through Mind Meets Body Institute, LLC, a continuing education organization I co-founded in 2013 with colleague, Douglas Smith. As a human rights advocate, I am informed by the core teachings of the Buddha which emphasize wise understanding, ethical living and compassionate being-in-the-world as means to the ending of suffering. I view social action through human rights advocacy as an integral part of my spiritual practice. My particular focus has been on promoting full human rights for all people in Israel and Palestine. This is my 3rd trip to the region.

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An invitation

Please join me as I travel to Israel-Palestine for my 3rd visit.  My husband, Bob, and I will leave the US on 5/20, and while he will stay for a month, I will be in the region for 2 weeks.  I’m looking forward to visiting old friends, developing new friendships and being once again in this powerful, beautiful and complicated part of the world.  I am particularly delighted to be planning visits with Buddhists in the region:  Dhamma leaders and scholars– And, I’ve been invited to speak about Buddhism to a class at a Palestinian girl’s high school in East Jerusalem.

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